Surrendering Control (Even When It Feels Impossible)
Let’s talk about control. And the gut-wrenching fear that comes with letting it go.
As a trauma survivor, I know how hard it is to surrender.
When you’ve lived most of your life in hypervigilance — always alert, always watching, always waiting for the next blow — letting go doesn’t feel like a relief. It feels like danger.
For someone who’s spent years in fight-or-flight mode, the idea of trusting someone else to have your back might actually feel like the most dangerous thing you could do.
Why?
Because when you did trust…
You were hurt.
You were betrayed.
You were lied to.
You were gaslit.
You were abandoned.
So your nervous system decided: Never again.
And honestly? That made sense. That was survival.
It was smart. It kept you safe.
It kept you alive.
(If this resonates with your journey, you can read more of my story here. You’re not alone.)
But here’s what I’ve been sitting with lately…
What if the message isn’t “you can’t trust anyone”?
What if the real invitation is to trust yourself first?
What if it’s not about handing over your power — but about handing it back to the part of you that’s deeply wise, intuitive, and connected to something greater?
The part that has always known how to get you through.
What if the pain wasn’t proof that you’re broken — but a redirection toward something better?
What if surrender isn’t weakness…
What if it’s wisdom?
What if the Universe (God, Source, the Divine — whatever name feels true for you) has never once abandoned you… even in the moments you felt abandoned by everyone — including yourself?
What surrender actually means…
What if surrendering control doesn’t mean giving up…
But finally giving yourself the support you’ve always craved?
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And what if the more you cling, push, and micromanage… the more you actually delay the thing that’s already trying to arrive?
Yeah. I didn’t love hearing that either. 😅
But here’s the truth I’m sitting with now:
When I choose me — over and over again — and trust in something greater to guide me…
💛 Things begin to align.
💛 Not always how I expect.
💛 But always in service of my highest good.
When I stop trying to control every outcome and instead co-create with the Universe, I experience more peace, more clarity, more magic than I could’ve planned for on my own.
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You don’t have to do all the work alone.
Surrender doesn’t mean you sit back and hope for the best.
It means you let yourself be guided.
It means you still take action — but not from fear or force. From alignment.
It means:
🌿 You get to ask for help.
🌿 You get to pause and receive.
🌿 You get to let go of the parts that were never yours to carry.
You have a guide.
You have support.
Even on the darkest days.
Especially on the darkest days.
And yes — this message is for me, too.
Because if you know me, you know I’m “impatiently patient.”
The phrase “Give it time” makes me want to roll my eyes and scream into a pillow.
But every time I try to force things to happen on my timeline, I just end up stuck and frustrated.
So now? I’m learning to sit in the unknown.
To soften.
To breathe.
To trust.
I remind myself that I am not the only one here — but I am the only one I can control.
I am the most important person in my life.
And I accept the love, guidance, and unwavering belief that the Universe has in me.
Even when I don’t want to.
Even when I’d rather do it all myself.
Even when it feels impossible…
I surrender.
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You don’t have to do it all alone anymore.